What love got to do with it..... break out of the cycle!!!

She lost her dad when she was an infant and
she always wondered what it would be like
to feel her father’s arm around her ,
or what it would be like to be called Daddy’s little girl.
Her mom raised her on her own and they lived in a little town
where everyone knew each other including each other’s business.
Maybe because she lacked that father figure,
she was always attracted by older man and
she finally got involved with a man who was quite abusive both physically and verbally.
They have been together for about five years….
When they first started to date, he was a charming person, he would send her flowers at work or would surprise her with wonderful presents and no special occasion was needed… but once they moved in together, he revealed his true colors ~ he was very short-tempered and very abusive and shortly after, she found out that he was married but when she addressed the issue, he told her that there was nothing between him and his wife that they were still together because of the kids that they had ….but he promised her that he would divorce his wife and marry her and she believed him year after year.

One day she went to visit her Mom who lived in a Senior citizen community and she noticed some bruises on her neck even though she did her best to cover them up with her scarf and her Mom begged her to leave this man who did not only bruise her physically but emotionally and she promised that she would as she did many times before….while deep inside she knew that she would never have the strength to…. She was a very out going person before she met him but once she got involved with him, her life was very secluded and she barely saw her friends whom she used to be very close to.

One particular Sunday, they had a huge argument because another man smiled at her and held the door for her as they were living a restaurant, (she was a beautiful woman but everyday she was loosing her self confidence and self-esteem because he would always remind her that she wouldn’t look like anything if she was still messing with those guys that she used to… he was breaking her softly mentally and physically ) and that day, he did not hit her but he tore her into pieces with his malicious words and she was on the verge of a breakdown… He dropped her home and before he drove away, he told her that he had enough of her and called her all types of names…

So nervously with tears running down her face and her make-up all messed up almost like her state of mind, she opened the door of her apartment and went directly to her bedroom and sat on the floor. She kicked her high heel shoes to a corner and noticed a box under the bed and she pulled it and a smile brightened her face as she saw a photo album of her College life, so many good memories..... she was about to close the box when she noticed a dusty book and remembered that it was given to her by her Mom at her graduation and the dedication on the right corner, read like this: If you ever lose your way my baby, just open this manual at any page and find your way back… it was a BIBLE… so she opened that book for the very first time in her life… in Psalm 139 and started to read and she wept bitterly; tears of sorrow and joy and the more she read, the hungrier she got and a flood of love and peace invaded her soul and she spent the whole afternoon reading till she fell asleep….

A week later, her boyfriend or "Man" called her to apologize, anticipating to hear the tears and the brokenness in her voice, begging him to come back but at the end of the line was a firm and confident woman who told him that he had enough of the abuse, that she would no longer put up with his manipulation and intimidation tactics and that she was no longer that woman in search of her identity, she had discovered who she was, A Child of the King, fearfully and wonderfully made and that Her heavenly Father loved her, she was not a puppet or a punching bag …And she told him that she would have his stuff on the porch…. A year later, she ran into a High School classmate who was madly in love with her then and they went on a date a couple nights and shortly after they got married and today they are the most loving and beautiful couple that you could ever meet with two adorable children and her Mom was so thrilled that her daughter found TRUE LOVE….

The END